A few days ago, we had a joint birthday party for my two spring-birthday kiddos (who are now 14 and 8!!!).
I had invited a friend of mine, who has two boys, one of which is two years old. And as she was wrangling her toddler, as all toddler-moms will understand, someone mentioned how fast these days are gone. I think the exact words were, “Enjoy it while he’s young, one day you will wish for these days.”
My immediate thought was, “I don’t miss wrangling screaming, wiggling toddlers. I don’t miss those overwhelming years when I felt like I didn’t have any control over this creature from outer space who kidnapped my beautiful, sweet baby and replaced him with a monster. I don’t think I’ve ever wished to go back to the terrific (or terrible) twos!”
I even said something to that effect.
Sorry, friend. Sometimes my tongue says things before I think about them enough.
I didn’t think anymore of it after the party. I probably should have.
But this morning, as I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, I came across a new song by Nicole Nordeman called “Slow Down.” And I remembered my careless words just a few days ago.
While I may never wish to go back to temper tantrums and “Me do it,” I do wish time would slow down.
That I could savor every moment of NOW.
I am nostalgic sometimes for the snuggles and the “He’p me, p’ease-es” of two years old. The adorable-ness of my Superman with bunny slippers. Slobbery, wonderful kisses. How cute my little monster was. And still is.
I guess that is my point.
While I will remember with fondness the younger years, I’m enjoying my kids where they are right now.
I love the deepening relationship with my 14-year-old. We can sit down and discuss some pretty deep subjects sometimes. We enjoy talking together about books. And I totally appreciate that she can clean the kitchen really well, all by herself!
I cherish the joy I see on my 10-year-old daughter’s face when she is talking American Girl dolls. We have fun doing projects together making another “something” for her doll. I love that she is growing up, but is still a little girl at heart. And she’s pretty good at laundry! 🙂
I delight in the imagination and creativity I see in my 8-year-old son when he is building a giant city out of Lego’s. Or when the wheels are turning in his head when he is discovering something new. We are still training him to clean the bathroom.
Now, enjoying the moment is not something I have always been able to do successfully. There were days in the aforementioned toddler years, when I had 3 babies under 6, that I just did what I could to get through the day. Even now there are days when I look back at the day, and I have been so busy that I haven’t been purposeful about building relationships with my kids. That’s why I’m so thankful for God’s mercies that are new every morning.
Oh, sweet mama. When you are in the throes of the twos and threes, and you are feeling overwhelmed, and you want to throttle some well-meaning grandma for saying “Enjoy it, honey. They grow up too fast,” take her words to heart.
I think what she means is that now is a time to be cherished, not just struggled through. Don’t miss it by wishing your kids were older, or better behaved, or by being too busy to enjoy the time you have with them, or even remembering days gone by.
Slow down… and enjoy the now.
So, have you been guilty like me of missing the now? I would love to hear from you! Leave me a comment below, or join me on Facebook.
And here is the Nicole Nordeman song that started all of this reflection, just in case you feel like bawling.
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